Do you find that it’s not always easy to keep calm when someone comes along and does something to press your buttons? Maybe you can’t help but rant and rave, as this is your automatic response.
Do you wish that you didn’t get as as wound up as you do?
If you were able to keep calm, you would most probably respond differently to the situation than you would when feeling wound up. When in a calm state, you will have a clearer mind and respond more appropriately to the situation and feel more in control.
When feeling irritated and stressed, you won’t feel in control. You won’t be able to think clearly and you are likely to respond in a non resourceful way, as you will be acting out on these feelings.
Breathing techniques can help to maintain a feeling of calmness or help you calm down. Breathing techniques can be used before, during or after an upsetting situation.
Primary Tokophobia is found in women who have not had children. It is a fear of being pregnant, even though the woman may want to have a family of her own. If the woman becomes pregnant, she may either request an elective caesarean instead of having a natural birth or decide to terminate the pregnancy.
Primary Tokophobia can commence in adolesence or in early adulthood. Women develop this fear from hearing negative birth experiences of labour. This can be from their mother or close female relatives, or hearing stories from the media or television.
With all the horror stories that you may have heard about childbirth, you probably believe that childbirth has to be a very painful dreadful ordeal.
Maybe, you have already experienced childbirth and would find it difficult to believe it if I told you that childbirth can actually be a wonderful experience.
If you go into labour feeling fearful and anxious, then your body will become tense and hinder the birthing process.
When you experience negative emotions and feelings, this triggers your biologial stress response mechanism. This stress response also known as the fight or flight response was an essential survival mechanisim back in the caveman days, to provide the body with extra resources it needed to either fight or flight (run) away from the wild beasts that they would encounter.
This same response is still activated today when experiencing negative emotions and feelings, such as fear and anxiety. When the stress response is activated during labour, the hormone cortisol is released. Blood supply and energy is taken away from the uterus, to supply more resources to the muscles. This enables more strength to fight or more energy to flight (run) away from danger.
When the hormone cortisol is released during labour, it affects the production of oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone, which is needed during labour to keep contractions efficient and to keep the labour progressing. As a result of the stress response being activated during labour, women often experience very painful and slowed down labours.
Relaxation switches off the stress response. Using relaxation along with other hypnobirthing/natural birthing techniques, during labour, will allow the body to birth as nature intended.
To find out more on how YOU could have a more confident, calmer, labour and birth, click here.
Are you dreading the stress of the kids being at home during the holidays?
Are you wondering how you are going to cope?
I am a mum and stress management consultant and know too well how stressful the school holidays can be when the kids are at home. My 5 tips below could help you to survive the stress of the holiday period, and help make it a more enjoyable time for you.
TAP AWAY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS WITH EFT
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a powerful and effective technique. EFT uses self -acupressure tapping on certain meridian endpoints on the face and body whilst using a talk therapy. Combining tapping whilst verbalising your issue, will help you to release negative emotions and feelings associated with that issue, helping you to regain inner peace and harmony.
During the holiday period, it is important that you take some time out just for you. Schedule some 'me-time' and do something nice for yourself. You could perhaps treat yourself to a home pamper session, or maybe arrange to meet up with a friend for a catch up, or do some other activity that you like doing.
This will help you reduce your stress levels and planning your 'me-time' in advance will give you something to look forward to. Make a commitment and give yourself some well-deserved time.
SPEND TIME OUTDOORS
Being outdoors can make a big difference to how you feel. It gives you a break away from the house and a break from those chores. There's nothing like a good brisk walk to clear your mind, reduce stress and make you feel good. Or perhaps, if it is the spring/summer months, you could do some fun outdoor activities with the kids.
PLAN SOME FUN ACTIVITIES
It is difficult to entertain the kids all the time, so plan some fun activities that they could perhaps entertain themselves with during bored moments. If your kids enjoy crafts, you could perhaps set up a craft box with bits and bobs in it, so that they can make something out of it.
DEVELOP SOME POSITIVE PHRASES
During a stressful situation, repeating positive statements in your mind, can change how you feel in an instant. When stressed you will feel out of control. Using positive phrases, during these times, will help you to feel in control again.
"I can deal with this" or "I can get through this" are two good phrases to use.
You might think that feeling stressed a lot is ok. That it is just something everybody experiences and is no big deal really. Well, you might be surprised when I say that stress can be very damaging and here’s why.
Stress is both a biological and psychological response that happens when a stimuli (a stressor) triggers the stress response. We all have our own unique stress triggers. What things are stressing you out?
When we experience long term stress or continous stress, this can be very harmful to us and create negative effects in both body and mind. Creating problems physically, emotionally or mentally. Here are just some of the many effects that stress could have on you.
More prone to colds, virus’s and infections
Blood pressure may increase
Increase or decrease in appetite,
Aches and Pains,
Problems with insomnia
Problems with concentration
Problems with focus
Difficult to think clearly
Problems with memory
We experience stress when the stress response (also known as the fight/flight response) is triggered. The stress response is a survival mechanism that gives the body extra resources to enable a person to deal with emergencies and dangerous situations.
Many centuries ago, the stress response was an essential survival mechanism for cavemen. When the cavemen where in danger because of the wild animals that they would come into contact with, the stress response would be activated to provide the cavemen with the extra resources that they needed, so that they could either stay around to fight the wild animal, or to flight as quickly as possible from them.
When the stress response is activated, the body is flooded with stress hormones. Blood flow is increased in the muscles (this gave the cavemen extra strength to fight the beasts or more energy to enable them to run away quickly). This increased blood flow is activated by diverting blood from other parts of the body. Digestion also stops or slows down.
In today’s world, we do not encounter dangerous or emergency situations often, but the same stress response is activated by our unique stress triggers. Modern day life challenges and pressures create stress.
Life has also become busier over the decades and as a result of this, there is an increase of stress in our lifes.
Do you wish that you didn't feel as stressed out?
A positive way to deal with stress is to use stress management techniques.
The above list of effects must not be used to diagnose yourself. If you are suffering or think that you might be suffering from stress or have any concerns about your health you must consult with your GP.